I'm married to a guy who rarely disagrees with me. Don't get excited, girls, it's not that he doesn't truly disagree, just that he doesn't actively let me know he disagrees, so I often walk around believing we agree when in fact, we don't.
Lately, the thing we can't agree on is where to go on our next vacation, hence we haven't taken a vacation* for over a year. I've since realized this is my fault: that had I really wanted to take a vacation, we'd be vacationing or talking about the vacation we just took or planning the vacation we will soon take. Alas, I have sunk to passivity on this issue. Let me explain though, in general, I much prefer staying home because, well, vacation is a lot of work. That, and I, personally, seem to be lacking in vacation sense: i.e., where to go and what to do.
Tony is a very good vacationer. He knows where to go, he's an experienced traveler. He skiis, he snowboards, he dives, he snorkels, he surfs, he swims with the fishes, he flies in helicoptors, he sails the seas, he absorbs the history. He's even forced me to do a few of these activities that, left to my own devices, I'd as soon skip. Cuz I'm scared. Of getting lost, of drowning, of throwing up, of falling out of the sky, of getting stung by passive, gentle stingrays. Together we've been to New Orleans, San Francisco, San Jose, New York, a carribean cruise (Barbados, Antiqua, St Thomas), the island of St Croix, Kauai, HI, all over western North Carolina, to name a few. While he's out scuba diving, I'm at the spa. But I have been in a helicopter, on a sailboat, snorkeling and even white water rafting (tho the latter was pre-Tony).
I would like to go to Europe. Specifically, I would like to take a guided tour in Europe (because left to my own devices I would spend the whole time eating and going to the spa). I want to go to Italy, Greece, Spain, Switzerland, Austria, Norway, London, France, Prague (not in any particular order), you get the idea. I don't really much care where. I want to see some Europe where our ancestry suffered and endured. I want to see historic sites, I want to drink in the romance, I want to do like tourists do. Tony, not so much. Tony has been to Europe twice already and while there's probably a few places he'd still like to see, it's evident that something about it does not excite him. I know this not because he's come out and said "No, I don't want to go to Europe", I know this because he won't get with the program and plan our European vacation. Could be the 20 hour flight, could be the value of the US dollar. Whatever it is, he's not that excited about it. See, I could just plan it and we would go, but I'll choose something dumb and we won't have as much fun cuz what the hell do I know.
So watch this: This week I announced that since we can't agree on where or when to take our next vacation, we should take turns planning our vacations. The designated planner gets to decide everything (taking into account what s/he knows the other just can't tolerate. For me it's humidity and biting bugs) and the other has to go along with it. Who wants to go first? Well, evidently not Tony. So fine, it's my turn. I'm deciding. Although Tony obviously doesn't want this responsibility, he doesn't relish the idea of it being my turn. Frankly, neither do I because I suck at planning vacations, but what can I do? Something has to be done or we'll never get outta town.
While I really want to go to Europe, long travel times make me crabby and we can't have two crabby people... and with Tony's current available vacation time we apparently only have one week to work with. Hm. Well, I announce, let's go to Hawaii then. This perks Tony up and he's surprised and happy that I chose Hawaii (why he didn't just say "let's go to Hawaii" and plan it is beyond me). So I begin deciding on which island and he's got some strong opinions about that, so I let him choose which island. Maui. Ok. But, he says, Hawaii vacations are for winter. OK, let's go this winter. In fact, let's ask our friends Paul and Irene to join us. Oh, wait, they can't go in December. Perhaps January. Wait, lets go in February for our anniversary (we got married in HI). Like this is a novel idea: we've been saying lets go back to HI in Feb since we got married there. Heavy sigh. So it's July. We haven't had a vacation since NC a year ago April and now we've decided on a vacation to take seven months from now. Heavier sigh.
We might go to Phoenix for a few days in September though. And since I had my turn choosing Hawaii, Tony's checking into that.
*Ok, we did go to Craigun's in Brainerd for a few days right after xmas with Kasie and Lily but that hardly counts as a real vacation. oh, and I just remembered we took a road trip to New Ulm this Spring. But that hardly counts either.